I cam across a funny article yesterday via the Huffington Post about an unemployed male who recently split from his partner and wracked up a huge phone bill calling sex chat lines on his mobile phone. You can read the article here if you’re interested
Now, what does a desperate and frankly, pathetic, man have to do with a blog about fitness you may say? Well in this article, the man, Kevin Waldrum, actually had the nerve to blame his cellphone provider Vodafone for the huge bill because he believed it was their fault for not cutting him off. As pathetic as that sounds, the sad reality is that too many people are trying to blame other people for the circumstances they’re under.
Self responsibility is a human behavior that is scarce in society today. We live in a fast paced and busy world where we’ve lost the ability to think because we need to make quicker decisions so we allow other people to make them on our behalf from what we see in the media and in society at large. Because of this, we’ve lost our own personal responsibility. I heard it from a motivational speaker once that responsibility is the ABILITY TO RESPOND. It is this ability to respond at situations that life throws at us that makes all the difference and until we’re able to make positive choices on a subconscious level, they will need to be thought through initially. How do we know if we’re making the right choices on subconscious level? Well chances are, if you’re happy with the results you’re getting in any area of your life, you’re doing a good job. if however, you step on the scale or look into a mirror and are not happy with what you see, your subconscious response, that is the actions you do on autopilot because of your habits and routine, are not serving you well.
There’s a saying, it’s not what happens to you but how you respond that makes all the difference in life and that is so true. I’m not sure about you, but i’ve yet to meet an overweight person who was forced fed at gunpoint and told they weren’t allowed to exercise! The decision to eat healthy and to have an active lifestyle must come from within, from the conscious mind and then be embedded in your subconscious mind through habit and routine.
Just like our friend Kevin Waldrum who didn’t think through the consequences and decided to pass the buck over for his misgivings, far too many people are doing the same thing and then blaming someone else or something for their lack of psychical fitness, “I’m too busy to work out and eat healthy” or “There are too many McDonald’s in my area” etc.
So what’s the first step?
The first step is to appreciate that something isn’t right. You’ll know it isn’t right because you’ll feel bad about it or feel as though you’d like an improvement. An example could be your body fat percentage or even your level of cardiovascular fitness.
The next step is to pin point the reasons you’re holding on to for not achieving your goal. Remember you can have results or reasons for not having them, you can rarely ever have both. For example, A reason for not having the level of fitness you desire may be down to the fact that you just haven’t been to the gym in a while because you’re too tired after work to go or you’ve gotten into the habit of watching tv once you get home from work until you’re tired and ready to go to bed.
Once you’ve got the reason for not achieving your desired goal, imagine for a moment you do have your desired goal, for example, you’re at you peak physical condition and ideal body fat percentage. What would the person who has achieved your goals be doing differently than the you in your present state? Perhaps in this example, the improved version of you doesn’t watch TV all night but goes to the gym right after work. You’ve now identified a more powerful behavior to get you on course with your desired goals and it is now up to you to take the responsibility to make the new behavior happen! It may feel uncomfortable at first but after a while of continued action, it will become routine and habitual and you’ll find that this will now be your automatic, subconscious response!
The beauty of this process is it can be used in any area of your life, not just with your personal health and fitness!
So don’t be like our friend Kevin Waldrum, take personal responsibility and remember what Brian Tracy says, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me!”